A jealous friend is no one’s friend. I feel very solid in saying that a person who is jealous or envious—who just has the tendency to be jealous or envious—is no one’s friend.
The reason you’re jealous is usually one of two things: either you’re unwilling to do or go through what that person has had to do or go through to have the thing you want, or you don’t know your lane. Maybe you don’t accept that you were not made for that—that it’s not for you for whatever reason. Maybe you’re not the kind of person who can achieve it.
In either case, they don’t know themselves. They covet something you have because they don’t know themselves.
How They Show It
Jealous friends show this in many ways, and probably all of them are going to be plausibly deniable. That’s how frenemies operate—in plausibly deniable territory. They do and say things that, if you confront them at face value, there’s always some other interpretation that can be given to it.
That is why you need to trust your gut and trust your discernment. A frenemy will never tell you who they are. They’re not going to admit that they’re a monitoring spirit or a frenemy.
If they’re really smart, they’ll settle your fears in a very soothing way. If they’re less smart, they’ll still deny it, but in a way where you can probably feel it—you just know.
The Bottom Line
A jealous friend is not a friend, and it’s worse than a known enemy.